I  suppose  the title did what it was tasked to do- help pull you in. I am a marketer by qualification, also, I am not shy to run the risk of people thinking I’m a little crazy-silly (because sometimes I am, so there is really no reputation lost there). Since you are here, we might as well talk about it-SEX.

It’s OK, you  want to know about my (nonexistent) sex life. So, let’s get comfortable with this uncomfortable situation I have dragged you into. Be warned however, that you will be uplifted by this content & you run a high risk of having your honesty levels in your personal relationship with Jesus Christ shoot to level one hundred thousand.

My body needs sex, some weeks more than others. Depending on my menstrual cycle, work-load aka stress levels (this is normal right?), and I am also convinced that spending time with in-love couples contributes to my appetite for sex. Anyway, if you are waiting ’till marriage to have sex, especially  if it’s secondary abstinence (like with myself) you are most likely to have times of  feeling sexual pressure as well. However, I am not willing to give my body what it wants yet. I am always prepared however to have a respectful conversation with it and say, “body, I respect your needs, but we will not die, we shall live life the way I dictate, and I dictate that Christ is Lord over this body. End of discussion. Bye!”. OK, i know, easier said than done, that is exactly why we need helpful tips on how to abstain successfully. Now you know why you are really here!

Below i have shared with you a few principles and tips that I believe in and live by which may  help manage a sexual appetite of one waiting for marriage to have sex (however long that will be-yikes!):

1. Acknowledge your appetite for sex, but place the Word of God above it– Instead of feeling bad that i am a sexual being, I have a habit of  sometimes praising God for my sexual nature. When i’m feeling ‘some typa-way’ , i praise him for that sexual desire (get over yourself, a healthy non-induced sexual desire is not from the devil). I thank Him that I am healthy and tell Him that I look forward to a  growing sex life with my husband. Stop judging me & try it! It takes the focus away from what your body wants to who God is-An understanding Father who loves to answer prayers.
2. Have a game plan.Decide before you get turned on what you will do when you are. To abstain or not to abstain? To obey the Word or not to obey God? To practice patience, self-control (looooong suffering, LOL) or not? DECIDE! My advise, choose life. Choose God’s way and do not delay your destiny. Good. Now stick to that  decision to flee from sexual sin  when you are feeling ‘hot’ even if “nobody is watching”.
3. Study your body. When you get wisdom on how your body works, you will for instance know when to maximize on “fleeing” from certain people or places! I personally stay away from guys who give ‘funny hugs’.  Not law, just me. There is just something about being held that makes me want to be more vulnerable. So i side hug those kind of guys (especially those i am physically attracted to.Oh!the irony).Basically know what usually increases your unique appetite for sex and stay far far away! (unique because we have varied libido based on biological, psychological & social factors).
4. I like you. You made it to number four:  Be honest (with God) .Talk to God about sex. I sometimes say to Him when I feel like I need some of that horizontal shuffling, “really Dad?”. It’s an inside joke, literally. Get it? Inside, Holy spirit-inside joke?  Anyway, we talk about loads more: my expectations, fear of rejection in this area, my past experiences (secondary abstinence remember?) and whatever else in between. He is the coolest Dad (and He just asked me to type this last sentence,LOL).

Now let’s land.  You may not be in right standing with God right now. At some point I was not either. Jesus saved me & gave me different desires. Stop beating yourself up, Jesus loves you. His love is unconditional & is for all. He is ready to forgive you for your sins and  He desires an intimate relationship with you, where you can hear & be lead by His voice. Sin on the other hand pulls us away from that intimacy, and no amounts of sex can substitute for it.

Prayer: “Lord I surrender my sexual life to you. I give you my life and my singleness. I ask that you direct my steps, please give me wisdom and an opportunity to understand your will for my sexual nature. I want to please you above all things, so please help me  do so even when I least feel like it. Jesus you are Lord and you have been raised from the dead to give me a full life. Amen”

You will not die, you shall live!

Its a wrap! I wrote all i needed to. Keep well and enjoy #TheEpicChristianLife #BeYou #OucheaWithZibah